I've done SO much work.

I've journaled, spilled my heart out in therapy, bawled my eyes out and left my soul bare

in ceremony..

why am I still here?

why am I still scared?

why do I still feel this way?

You’ve done years of inner work, listened to podcasts, spent years revisiting different areas of your childhood in therapy, gone into plant medicine ceremonies

You know your attachment style and can recite exactly what you struggle with, what your emotional triggers are and can pinpoint someone else's attachment style within the first half an hour of talking to them.
The Power of Now, The Mountain Is You and Attached is probably on your bookshelf. You probably have 50 Brianna Weist and Najwa Zabien quotes about self love saved in your Instagram.
You’ve burned a hole in your journal with how much you've reflected about your emotions and the processing has been profound, deep & transcendental.
You've asked the cards the same question four different ways hoping the answer would change.

And yet…

You still overthink

⚠️ You still spend three weeks analysing whether someone is emotionally unavailable, “healthy but unfamiliar,” or whether you’re just scared of intimacy.

⚠️ You still rehearse conversations in your head while driving home from work…

then say, “It’s okay” instead of what you actually wanted to say, which was "that actually doesn't work for me" or "when you said X I felt dismissed/hurt/unseen"

⚠️You still second guess whether your needs are too much and will put someone else, especially a loved one or friend's first, before you ask for yours to be met because you don't want to sound difficult.

If you're dating...

⚠️ You still stay too long because:

“He has so many good qualities…” while not being able to shake the niggling feeling that he's not meeting you at the depth you're craving.

⚠️ You still find yourself justifying his inconsistency because you see how much potential he has "if only he...."

⚠️ Despite having listened to the latest podcast on "how to be in your divine feminine", you still doubt yourself because "maybe it's just because secure love is calm and I'm so used to intensity that I need to give this more time"

⚠️ ... then catch yourself Googling "is this fear or intuition?" at 2am.

Or maybe your last

heartbreak was a while ago...

⚠️ but your heart still feels heavy at night as you catch yourself sigh.

⚠️ You’ve "done your process", "let go" and "felt huge shifts," during your last cacao ceremony.

⚠️ Yet you're still finding yourself replaying what happened in your head and what you could've done differently

⚠️ You still judge yourself ...

for how much you lost yourself while trying to keep the connection alive

for how much hope you hung onto, because you wanted a family and felt like time was running out...

and you didn't want to start all over again.

Right now you're probably

👉 Booking another plant medicine ceremony before integrating the last three

👉 Journalling every feeling without actually moving it through the body

👉 Talking about childhood wounds in therapy while still getting triggered the minute you feel unheard, unseen, invalidated

👉 Trying to manifest "divine love, soul connection and abundance" while secretly feeling like your needs are too much

👉 Calling yourself “highly sensitive” or an "empath" while feeling emotionally exhausted by life and drained by anyone who doesn't have the same opinion, or spiritual views as you

👉 Romanticising your pain and all the hurt you've been through... because realistically you don't actually know who you are without this baggage

So you protect yourself by saying...

You're "protecting your peace" by isolating yourself from "people who drain me,"

You "still have some more work to do" before dating again

You "need some more clarity" before walking away from your situationship

And THIS is the part most healing work misses:

The version of you doing the healing work is not the version of you that makes empowering decisions.

Because the moment you feel rejected, abandoned, unseen, criticised or afraid of losing someone you love...

the woman who read the communication books, listened to the relationship podcasts and knows her worth often disappears.

And the woman who learned had to earn love, stay silent to keep the peace and stay small 'not to bother anyone' takes over.

You KNOW

you deserve more...

But still

tolerate crumbs.

You KNOW how to communicate...

But still hold back

because you don't want to

"scare him away" or seem like

you're "in your masculine".

You KNOW the relationship isn’t right...

But still months trying

to convince yourself to

give it more time,

because "he has qualities"

This is where The Unmasked Woman is different.

This isn’t another container that gives you more awareness while your real life stays the same.

This is where the work actually lands.

So the moments where you used to ask,

"Am I overreacting?"

"Am I asking for too much?"

"Should I give it more time?"

become

"Is this situation meeting my needs?"

"What am I pretending not to know (because I'm avoiding having to do or feel something)?"

"If nothing changes for the next 6 months, would I be happy?"

HERE'S A SNEAK PEEK AT

THE UNMASKED WOMAN™

Where you stop carrying old heartbreak, regret and self-judgement into every new chapter of your life.

Because knowing what needs to change isn't the same thing as changing it.

Each week helps you release a different layer of the grief, shame, conditioning and emotional baggage keeping you stuck in the same thoughts, behaviours and relationship dynamics...

...so your life starts reflecting what you already know to be true.

WEEK 1 - PORTAL OF AWAKENING FRAMEWORK™

Where you finally understand why knowing has never been enough to change unwanted behaviours, thoughts and emotional patterns through the Consciousness Gap Protocol™.

You may have talked about your past ad nauseam in therapy, read books and listened to podcasts about "healing your inner child" and "understanding attachment theory"

...but still find yourself reacting in ways that confuse and frustrate you

....overreacting to a message that seems like he's pulling away

.... staying in something you know is not right but can't bring yourself to leave because of potential

... freezing when it is time to speak up

...saying yes before you have even thought about it.

You will understand that it's not because you haven't done enough "work" or you're not "healed enough".

You will learn how 95% of your behaviour is controlled by the subconscious mind which stores all of your beliefs, emotions and behaviours. Until you change the very belief systems that filter information to match your beliefs and values, you will be unable to change your behaviour, even if you cognitively "know better".

Inside this session:

🖤 Understand how the subconscious mind actually works and why it has been overriding everything you consciously know

🖤 Understand the mechanics of trauma patterns (not just the big events, but the everyday experiences that shaped how your nervous system learned to respond during childhood and significant emotional events)

🖤 See how unmet emotional needs from your past have been quietly driving your relationship choices without you realising it

🖤 Understand why certain situations trigger a reaction that feels completely out of proportion to what actually happened

🖤 Identify specifically where this has been showing up in your relationships and your life right now

WEEK 2 – THE RECLAMATION FRAMEWORK™ (PHASE 1)

Where you release the grief that has been quietly keeping you tethered to your heartbreak, whether that's from a relationship breakdown or a death of a loved one.

You will understand how grief is not only about loss of a partner or loved one, but also encompasses versions of yourself that didn't have the consciousness you have now.

...The woman who believed this relationship was finally it.

...The life you thought you were building.

...The future you grieved before you even let yourself admit it was over.

Inside this session:

💧 Understand the role grief plays in why you stay stuck in cycles of overthinking and rumination long after you thought you had moved on

💧 Learn why the price of loving something deeply is also grieving it, and why acknowledging that grief is what actually sets you free emotionally

💧 Find the higher meaning in what ended while fully honouring what it cost you

💧 Learn how to find closure within yourself, with or without the explanation or apology you never received

💧Using the Emotional Release Framework to release grief and regret from the body

WEEK 3 – THE RECLAMATION FRAMEWORK™ (PHASE 2)

Where you meet the parts of yourself you have been hiding and discover they were never the problem.

Inside this session:
✨ Understand the shadow and the unconscious masks that have been keeping you playing small in love and in life

✨ Meet the parts of yourself that have never known love the shame, the rage, the inner critic with compassion instead of more exile

✨ Clear the guilt causing self-judgement, self-sabotage and resentment toward yourself and others

✨ Fire ritual to release anger and sadness stored in the body

✨ Water ritual for forgiveness and compassion for yourself and others

WEEK 4 – THE RECLAMATION FRAMEWORK™ (PHASE 3)

The beliefs running your love life may not have ever been yours to begin with, but inherited from societal and ancestral conditioning.

Inside this session:

🌿 Unearth the specific inherited beliefs shaping who you let in and how close you let them get, things like "good women put everyone else first," "vulnerability is not safe," and "love always comes with conditions"

🌿 Use The Lineage Liberation Method™ to trace those beliefs back to where they actually came from, your family, your culture, the women before you, so you can see clearly that they were never yours

🌿 Dissolve the family and societal stories that have been deciding what kind of love you think you deserve

🌿 Learn to stay calm and grounded in difficult conversations instead of shutting down or over-explaining

🌿 Install new beliefs that reflect who you actually are, not who the loss or the heartbreak convinced you that you were.

You let go of beliefs and scripts that were not even yours to begin with and start living as the woman who fully claims her truth and sovereignty.

WEEK 5 – THE EMBODIED SOVEREIGN PROTOCOL™ (PHASE 1)

You already have the mind and spirit sorted, now it’s time for the body to claim her new identity.

✨ Gain clarity on the values actually controlling your thoughts, feelings and decisions, including the ones working against everything you say you want

✨ Discover where your values and your choices have been pulling in opposite directions and why something has always felt slightly off

✨ Emotional Clarity Breathwork Journey to move through the body everything that has surfaced across the previous four weeks and create space for what is coming in Week 6

✨ Voice activation through vocal toning to begin installing the new beliefs into your body (because real change is not something you think your way into)

This is where the woman you have been becoming stops being a concept and starts being something you can actually FEEL experientially within the body.

WEEK 6 – THE EMBODIED SOVEREIGN PROTOCOL™ (PHASE 2)

This is where everything you have released, reclaimed and rebuilt gets anchored in your body so it actually comes with you into your everyday life.

👑 Set goals and a vision for your life from the woman you have become across these six weeks, not the one who walked in carrying everything she was ready to put down

👑 Use The Soul Activation Breakthrough Process™ breathwork journey to embody confidence, inner power and absolute certainty at a body level so the new version of you is the one who shows up automatically

👑 Voice activation through toning to unlock authentic self-expression and release what you have been holding back from saying

👑 Vision the life waiting for you beyond this container and build your integration pathway so the shifts stay when life starts again

You stop waiting to feel ready. You start moving as the woman who already is.

BONUSES

Live coaching every week with personalised support

Sisterhood community for accountability

Private WhatsApp group for ongoing support

Optional in-person

retreat

Live your healing in person on November 20-22, Upper Colo where the work lands in your body, in community, nature and ceremony.

Enquire here - book a free 30 minute call to see if it's a fit

THE UNMASKED WOMAN

IN-PERSON RETREAT

November 20-22, 2026 | Upper Colo, NSW

(1.5 hrs north of Sydney)

There is something that happens when women gather in nature.

Around a fire. By a river. Under the same blanket of stardust.

Women have always gathered this way around the fire, in circles and ceremony, sharing stories, songs, laughter, maybe even some tears.

Something ancient awakens when we return to community like the sacred wisdom already written but simply waiting to be remembered and birthed into creation.

WHO THIS IS FOR

This retreat is for the woman who spends so much of her life holding it all together.

She might be the one who everyone comes to because she's always been a good listener.

Or maybe she's the organiser and is the first to plan everything with laser precision.

She's used to being the strong one who holds families and relationships together when everyone else is losing their shit.

She carries so much for herself and everyone that the full weight is rarely seen.

She's spent years learning about herself and knows her own patterns inside out.

She's been to therapy, read all the self help books, done all the courses on "how to be more confident" and "how to be in your feminine" and attended workshops where she's completing workbooks and journalling about "5 things you're grateful for".

She feels in her soul that there's more to life than rushing to tick another thing off the to do list which is miles long.

So maybe that woman is you.

This retreat is 3 days in nature without having to rush to do anything, perform vulnerability, being okay or authenticity, or caretake.

Without having to analyse or talk about your childhood or narcissist ex while sitting in a circle.

Without having to dump all of your trauma and emotional vulnerabilities to strangers.

Without having to analyse, think of what to say next or "process" any more.

What we do instead at the Unmasked Woman Retreat

Imagine sitting around a fire sharing a meal cooked on the open flame, listening to the women around you share their stories of heartbreak, loss and lives that unfolded differently than they imagined and not need to make them "feel better:. You just understand and see them.

Imagine singing beneath a blanket of stars feeling your voice take up space without caring about whether people think you sound good or not, expressing what's true to you in that moment and being able to laugh at yourself because we're all imperfect beings.

Imagine waking at sunrise to birdsong and walking through the morning mist to share tea amongst the trees.

Imagine standing barefoot in the river, letting her crystalline energy carry away stories of the past.

A little more space returns to your heart.

A little more hope.

A little more of yourself.

The only pre-requisite is an open heart, mind and willingness to keep coming back to presence.

To remember you're not broken so there's nothing to fix.

To remember that you're whole exactly as you are and letting that be enough.

★ ★ ★ ★ ★

I spent 6 months with a psychologist before attending Metamorphosis by Candlelight: Cacao & Sound Journey run by Vanessa. That experience alone was enough for me to say this is what I need. I was also looking for options that supported my spiritual beliefs but also helped me to work on myself. Following on from the sound journey, I had a 90-minute Zoom meeting with Vanessa to see what she offered and whether we would be a good fit. The fact that our Zoom meeting went over by another 30–45 minutes says a lot. From the beginning, Vanessa was warm, welcoming, open and supportive. Without a second thought, I wanted to work with Vanessa. For the next 6 weeks, we worked one-on-one. Each week was a journey in itself, working through all the emotions I had suppressed. After each session, I walked away feeling so much lighter and with more clarity—not just about my own behaviours, but also about those of others towards me. After every session, Vanessa also provided tools for me to work on, and I still use those tools every day. I can't thank Vanessa enough for her continuing support. I also love attending her events, where I get to gain more insight in a safe environment.

Kristy-Lee Mula

★ ★ ★ ★ ★

Before my journey with Vanessa, I felt I would always dismiss the needs and desires within me whilst trying very hard to meet the needs of others. I was struggling with resentment, expecting people to mind read my feelings and burning myself out for others. I was also quite scared to speak my true feelings to other people. All of which have significantly changed since my 6 sessions of coaching. I met Vanessa at a friend's dance event and felt an instant connection. This was made even easier by the discovery call and discovery session, in which I felt Vanessa really understood my journey and reminded me of the power I held within. Because of this, I felt very comfortable to start my first week of my coaching sessions. I was really hoping to dig deep into some of my subconscious patterning and realise where some of my beliefs, thoughts and behaviours stemmed from. Vanessa's timeline therapy coaching really helped me to bring out some of the memories and emotions stuck within me. I found the things to come up very profound, enabling me to process many different moments of my life. She's helped significantly to identify where I needed to use my voice and how to use tips and tricks to break thought patterns. This has helped with my work and home relationships, particularly within my 10 year relationship which has become more grounded in good communication. My biggest learning has been realising that people will not abandon me for being honest, communicating my needs, or showing my real emotions. Thanks to Vanessa I was able to stop procrastinating with my deep dreams and actually get more clear on what those dreams actually look like. I have tried 5 other therapists before Vanessa, none of which had the spiritual depth or life understanding of Vanessa. Her coaching has led to a much greater discovery and change in my life than any other therapy. I am very grateful for all the time Vanessa spends to shed her light, she has spent so much time with me in her coaching sessions and I never felt rushed out of the door (as I have with many other therapists). The integration of Vanessa's coaching modalities, along with sound integration is something I would highly recommend to anyone looking to deepen their awareness of self and self-patterns.

Kate Verhoeven

★ ★ ★ ★ ★

Before I started working with Vanessa, I was lost. I didn’t trust my own healing process and thought I was doing it wrong. I was crippled with anxious attachment, struggled to create healthy boundaries, was a people pleaser, and would crumble while dating—giving all my power away, hoping to be chosen and liked. I had no self-worth. The biggest things I was struggling with were my self-worth, confidence, and anxious attachment. I was referred to Vanessa by someone I had done previous work with, so I had no real fears about working with her. My only fear was, what if she can’t help me? What if no one can? I was hoping to finally root deeply into myself, see my worth, develop confidence, and truly love myself. Today, I am a completely different person. I feel like I’m becoming the higher version of myself that I had always envisioned. It’s a pretty spectacular feeling. Vanessa’s work gave me powerful tools that I still use every day to strengthen my self-worth. The subconscious timeline work was the most rewarding part of the journey—it helped me genuinely believe in myself and love myself. It has been truly extraordinary. Compared to other things I’ve tried, this work went much deeper. The weekly tasks kept me accountable, and Vanessa always followed up, which worked like magic for me. This work truly clicked. I’ll forever be grateful for how I feel now compared to before I started. I was so lost, and it gave me so much direction in my life. I would absolutely recommend Vanessa to anyone looking for direction, practical tools, accountability, and a deeply transformative healing experience. She is a beautiful soul, and knowing she has personally experienced many of the same struggles made me feel truly seen and understood.

Mia

★ ★ ★ ★ ★

Attended an Unmasked session. I met so many likeminded people looking to grow and explore human connection, I was so surprised to find such a range of diverse yet somehow similar (as I learned through the process) people in one place. Vanessa removed (and sometimes deliberately added in a fun way) the awkwardness of connecting, relating, sharing, and finding your voice in a loving way. Highly recommend.

Lougene Mahfoud

★ ★ ★ ★ ★

I attended the Tench Reserve sound journey. I found it to be a grounding and deeply relaxing experience. Vanessa has beautiful energy and creates a space that is comfortable and welcoming. The gentle flow of sound and environment helped me to switch off from the stress of the everyday and enjoy the moment. I left feeling grounded, calm and reenergised. I am grateful to have shared this beautiful opportunity and highly recommend it to anyone looking to relax, reset and connect.

Michele

RETREAT FLOW

DAY 1 – FRIDAY

Afternoon arrival to settle in and meet the other gorgeous women in our container.
At 4pm the opening fire ceremony begins. You offer what you have been carrying and the flames consume it, solidifying your intention for the three days ahead.
After we share a light dinner together, we will enjoy a gentle breathwork and sound journey beneath th stars to close the night.

This is the perfect opportunity to drop in to the container and co-regulate with your sisters.

DAY 2 - SATURDAY

At dawn we will share a traditional puerh tea ceremony amongst the trees.
This is one of my most cherished practices; being with your cup, in silence, allowing the insights and wisdoms to flow into awareness simply by being completely present to what is.
After lunch there will be space to explore the property, go for a dip or feed the horses.
Dinner will be cooked by the open fire at the river's edge.
We will then complete our water ceremony through a vocal meditation practice.

You do not need to know how to sing or "be good" at singing; this exercise is an exploration of authentic expression.

I have myself seen the incredible shifts in my life through mantra-style singing and letting my hidden truths be heard... absolutely divvvvine.

DAY 3 - SUNDAY

6:30am. Dawn tea ceremony and nature meditation.
We will enjoy brunch together as a circle and share our visions and hopes for the future.
Depart by 1pm